I work on a one to one basis and also with couples.
Couples come to therapy for many different reasons, but always with an understanding that there is an unacceptable level of distress and/or dissatisfaction within the relationship.
The work of couple therapy is to explore and understand what is needed and wanted by each partner within the couple and to identify and understand what changes are needed to bring the relationship to a different place.
Couple therapy holds an understanding that each of the couple brings to the relationship their own way of relating to another, and this is based on learned patterns of behaviour and relating. When there are difficulties in a relationship it is important to explore the patterns and behaviours, both past and present that are occurring and have occurred. This offers an opportunity to facilitate understanding and hence an exploration of change and healing.
Healing is about finding a place that holds some resoloution and the potential to move forwards for each of the couple.
“When I open the door to a new couple I never know what I shall encounter. Is this a couple who have come to try and stay together? Is this a couple who have come to break up? Is this a couple who are no longer able to feel love for one another, but are entwined in ways that make separation impossible to contemplate?” – Susie Orbach
“Essentially, the task of the therapist is to move back and forth slowly exploring each partner’s experience in the relationship and offering an empathic response to the underlying feelings and fears of each person.” – Jim Crawley and Jan Grant